Take for instance my friend Rochelle. *name has been changed to protect the innocent* She was in a very healthy and inspiring relationship with the sweetest guy *Tony*. They had plans to move in together, got a dog lol, had great chemistry, and was madly in love. I mean the 'awws' and 'I want one!' in full force. In the midst of the bliss I get a normal phone call saying 'let's do lunch'. Food and my bud?! I'm there ! As I'm enjoying my beautifully cooked salmon I'm hit with 'so I broke up with *Tony*. he's just too clingy and sweet. we're too different and i can't take it' and that was that.
*looks up from salmon with fork in one hand and perplexed look on face*
In my mind, I'm thinking 'are you crazy ! the guy is crazy about you ! genuinely head over heels about you and all your flaws ! your bananas !'
*in a more mild tone*
'He's too good of a guy to let go. You two could really have something. As a woman we just want to be treated right and loved unconditionally. Why won't you allow yourself to be happy?'
'I already told you'
*looks like, that's it?*
'Well if you're sure...'
*on to the fine brotha sitting across from us, yumm!*
Later on she told me that *Michael* was still the love of her life and she would never be able to love *Tony* like *Michael* -that's fair- and *Tony* was nothing like *Michael* -duh he's *Tony*- she just felt there was something worth pursuing with *Michael* and she would hate to miss out on it for *Tony* - *Michael* *Tony*, *Michael* *Tony* : AND THE WINNER should have been *Tonyyyyyy!* (*Michael* ended up NOT wanting her, talking bad about her, and claiming he never loved her. Ouch!) She later went back to *Tony* who gladly took her back because of His devotion and love for her and she left him AGAIN to try pursuing that 'love worth fighting for' with *Michael*
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
I was trying to be supportive of her decision at the time but I just couldn't wrap my mind around how wrong she was for letting such a good thing go, Until ...
He's sweet, supportive, understanding, romantic. ♥ everything great BUT I don't want him.
*crowd yells HYPOCRITE !*
Psh, I know! And the bad part about it is I can pinpoint exactly why I don't want him. I would and will run over him if we were to ever become more than friends. There I said it.
It wouldn't be intentional. On some Steve Wilkos type my girlfriend abuses me hype but in a I will do and say what I want because I know he wouldn't do anything in his own defense hype. In fact, it probably would just automatically happen because I'd get bored. Then get frustrated because I wouldn't want to hurt his feelings by telling him how I truly felt, then get straight up irritated for biting my tongue when I'm not one to do that (damn Satya - those that follow my other blog know what I'm talking about) and finally mad for having to live a lie to someone so wonderful.
I guess I'll stay a hypocritical single lady till I find a decent guy that pisses me off half the time, is good to me the other half, and I love unconditionally all the time because i mean really, that's what we as women do.